There are so many stories with various narratives based on living actors that illustrate how restless and anxious in facing the normal phase as intelligent beings whose passions are difficult to master. A phase that is commonly faced with a variety of effects whose implications can trigger a resurgence in the quality of life later or even melt away all the desires of life. This devastating life is a victim of environmental discomfort and a lack of trust in people around. No need to blame, this phase is very natural to be an unrealistic person. We can stand on the same land, but we cannot choose our destiny. Be strong, in fact you are not alone in facing all of this.
Referring to WHO data in 2016 nearly 800 thousand people died worldwide due to suicide, the majority of them were 15-29 years old. This not only stops being an individual impact, but affects the psychology of family, friends, and people around. What is even more unfortunate is that 79% of these suicides occur in developing countries with low-middle income. Is it all just for money? In fact, it is not always a financial problem that is the cause of a person's life. Even some cases of financial problems are not a factor in suicide. Increased routines of life, too busy pursuing the future with the shadow of responsibility, confusion to prioritize between relationships or best friends. So it’s not surprising that there is a social media term that draws away, and keeps the close ones close.
Busy self to pursue the future makes us indifferent to our own pleasure. Although sometimes the opposite is true, selfishness to focus too much on yourself makes us feel like we are too far away and feel alienated by the environment. When problems begin to come and are not ready to deal with it themselves, we sometimes feel reluctant to shout for help because they feel pessimistic that someone else will care. Yep, caring is something that is quite rare in the era of the reality of daily life in the real world. It may look quite massive in the digital world, but today's millennials look foreign if there are those who take to the streets to just work around the neighborhood.
How often do you greet your friends by coming to his house suddenly, or just spontaneously calling? What's the response? What about after that? Intriguing, after passing through the phase in a circle of friends once we open ourselves to enter into other circles of friendship as if we feel alien or even alienated (in the opinion of some people) to return to greet and visit in a circle of previous friendship. Often we feel strange by our own friends even though we have been through some time together. Never mind to complain about the problems that befallen and devastate hope, just to say hello sometimes we are very shy. Alienation in the sound of happy laughter that harms the pain of despair for mutual trust.
In a journey through a quarter life crisis, we seem to be tested to be able to practice results during the process of studying life accompanied by laughter and the attention of the people around. Like a footing for a moment to stop and look back how hard we try, and look back on whether the results are in line with expectations or just become a narration that can only be cried. We can never choose results, but in the process we seem to be embarrassed by the many choices. Don't feel too busy to just be grateful for each achievement. When you arrive in moment when that feeling disappears, that disappointment can rhyme break down what you have built with all your body.
Even though you feel your life is hard, try to just say hello to some of your friends and ask the news. He could be in danger, the danger he made himself because he felt he did not have anyone in his life. Disappointment because being left behind can hurt deeper because guilt is negligent for your role for others. Not everyone has the same view of the problems they face, keep your role as good as possible and give them confidence because there are you by their side. The care that you devote to him will turn to you and become a strength for you in through the ebb and flow of life's ambition that you glorify.
Be strengthened, not to brag about yourself and act stronger than the others. But at least, you can become stronger than you thought afterwards. Being fragile is natural, but don't be easily destroyed because you are too close to hearing suggestions. Listen to the sad tone in the rhythm of your life, don't feel okay if you start to be uncomfortable with how you are intimidated by the disappointing results. Shout for help, really you are not alone in facing all of this.
A word when facing my quarter life crisis, hope you better than me when facing from all this. Feel free to share your story privately. Don't let our friends give up to reach their goals, help them!
